Change is hard. Some people (myself included) don’t adjust to change well. I went through all of the changes within a span of 6 months – I was married in April 2018 and fully graduated from college in May. I got a new job in June. My husband got a new job in Cincinnati in July. My father died in August and then we moved to our house in Cincinnati in September 2018. That is a lot for adjustment and it was not what I was expecting! Hopefully, the below tips are helpful for you when you’re not expecting to adjust and how to handle it!
Change is good. While it can be frustrating, it is good. It means growth is happening. The change also means that I’m getting out of my comfort zone. Which, I don’t like. But, the whole theme of that year for me has been getting out of my comfort zone and challenging myself. I rockily started The Genuine Home LLC! I’m still learning every single day how to adjust better and to be accepting of all of these changes in my life. It’s inevitable and necessary for growth! So how did I do it when I was not expecting all of that to go down?
First, I had to give myself grace and try not to get frustrated when I don’t have the answers right away.
This also goes for my spouse and all of our friends and family that we had moved three hours away from. I had to recognize I was not the only one who was going through this adjustment period with me. I have to be able to allow myself to go through the adjustment period. At the end of the day, it ultimately means that growth is happening and something bigger and better is on the other side. If I fall into the trap of beating myself up, I just won’t end up getting anywhere.
Second, I started testing out different things to acclimate myself to the area and to be able to meet other people and just see what works best.
When we first moved, I didn’t have a job so I was a stay-at-home wife looking for a job with one dog home at the time. I was by myself a lot. I threw myself into studying intentional living and into cultivating a home. The flexibility in my schedule was nice so I developed a routine for chores and household tasks while I was planning my job search too with the support of my friends and family!
I also added going to church and working on building my business. When I finally landed my job, I was so happy! I finally had something else to look forward to every day and I really do and celebrated a whole year there this past January going on two years! I have met some very great people who are uplifting and encouraging me to be my best, most intentional self!
Lastly, I researched how to handle the “new normal”.
I was very resistant to adjusting to my “new normal” and it’s okay. It can be difficult to figure out how to adjust on your own. I don’t encourage you to go it alone. I encourage speaking to a therapist, especially for very large and painful changes. I encourage speaking with family, friends, and spouse/significant other about all of your feelings and thoughts surrounding the change.
Growing Through Change
Change is necessary. There will always be an adjustment period. For now, I’m still giving myself grace and enjoying where I am in life right now. We are all learning every day. I hope these tips were helpful! It can be hard, but it is possible!
Love,
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